Today was not a good day in the parenting world for me. Sometimes we have days that make us not only aware that we are struggling a bit but that we are truly in the thick of getting it wrong.
I’m not going to bore you with the reasons my daughters and I shouted at each other to the point the neighbours curtains twitched but I can tell you that I woke up full of the desire to have a ‘positive’ morning. I am on a ‘no shouting’ policy and have managed over 2 weeks of positive parenting without a raised voice in sight..or I should say in ear shot…until this morning….then I hit a low. A very loud shouty low.
The short version is that we all fell out round about the 15th call for teeth to be brushed and it ended with me kicking things in the kitchen out of sheer desperation because my house keys had disappeared in the middle of the chaos and we were now late..very late,
I completely lost my focus during a rant at my littlest to get herself ready and when in her true natural style she gave back what I dealt out I stopped being present ..I went in my head to a place that is judging myself, freaking out about time , angry and fractious…a place that loses keys because I am not thinking about the thing I am actually doing.
So we were late..very late and it only showed up one thing…..I was so out of my body and in my head that everything went pear shaped. It’s ok to get it wrong – it’s ok to not be perfect! Who wants to be perfect for goodness sake!?! It showed me that if I had taken a step back, scraped my sense of humour off the floor and used it and told myself to breathe (yes I know I always say this but it’s really the key to most of life problems!) it would have been an easier start to the day.
My point is – lets give ourselves a break, we are not always going to be able to access the chilled out feeling we have in Savasana, we are going to lose it sometimes because we are human but lets look back at it and smile at our imperfections and keep putting one foot in front of the other…like after each standing pose in Ashtanga we come back to Samasthiti and we breathe and we start over. I’m starting over right now.
It’s been a little while since I was able to sit down and focus and write on the blog. It’s been the holidays with the children running around and my head has been in too many different places to make much sense to myself let alone others reading what I put to paper!
Today I took a moment …I took the time to sit down quietly and think about what I wanted to do with the day, the things I needed to get done and also the things that didn’t. Sometimes I spend so much time worrying about all the things I should be doing I end up doing nothing constructive at all…so I told myself “Take a moment! ‘ Thats all it takes to calm your breath, clear your head and just be . No thinking about what to make the kids for tea, no thinking about what you forgot to buy at the supermarket but just be… right now…just be…..it’s so unbelievably simple yet it can feel so out of reach. We are constantly over complicating every part of our day it becomes exhausting just to be in our own heads!
So why don’t you join me? Just stop, just for minute, put down your pen or your computer, focus on your breath and notice the inhale and exhale just for a few seconds, no effort…just breathe.
Then off we go again…..x
I am holding an introductory Yin Workshop on Sunday 30th July.
This will be at the Pilates Workshop in St Albans – 7.30-9.30pm and it’s an introductory offer of £10.
Address: Magenta City House,, Ronsons Way, St Albans AL4 9PU
We will explore a range of Yin postures in a gentle, peaceful way.
For those of you wondering what Yin is all about I thought this was a good excerpt to share :
“So much so often a yoga practice is about striving, there’s that achieving attitude. Yin yoga can give us the space to slow down, a chance to stay with our experiences rather than always rushing. In a Yin yoga practice, all the postures are sitting – and all the postures are held for sustained periods of time (often five minutes). Within these long holds there is an encouragement of softness and an emphasis on relaxing muscular tissue. Through these attitudes there can be a gaining of harmony and peace: so there is a greater ease, a deeper sense of balance, feelings of calmness and acceptance.” Norman Blair
and this too
“Yin Yoga uses gentle long held postures practiced with an attitude of compassionate acceptance to awaken the more Yin parts of our physical, emotional and spiritual selves.
By promoting the flow of energy (Qi) through the energy channels (meridians) of our deep Yin core we can help bring health to our bodies and balance to our busy Yang style lives.” Biff Mithoefer
Come and relax ! P.s If you fall asleep thats ok too!!!
This is the excerpt for your very first post.
Don’t be afraid of Ashtanga! Yes it’s known for being the most hardcore of all yoga practice but it’s beautiful, mediative and strong.
If you come to Ashtanga with no awareness of it’s history and heritage it’s easy to see it as a yoga for those that want to be militant about their practice but it’s so much more…
Through this blog I’ll share with you my thoughts and discoveries as well as places to go to for resources and literature if you want to learn more.